Make love an action.

In the Douay-Rheims Bible, 1 Corinthians 13:4-5 reads:

4 Charity is patient, is kind: charity envieth not, dealeth not perversely; is not puffed up; 5 Is not ambitious, seeketh not her own, is not provoked to anger, thinketh no evil; 

We are much more familiar with these bible verses with the word “Love” instead of “Charity”. 

When I first saw this about a decade ago, I had an instant shift in perspective of what Love is. In my mind it shifted from a feeling waiting to blossom, to a choice.

We are called to love one another. We are not called to LIKE each other (thank goodness… that could be infinitely many times harder). But when we are called to love one another, we are not being told to have feelings of affection.

Instead we are told to take action, to be patient with one another and not to try to one-up each other. 

Every one of us has dignity, regardless of political affiliation, race, beliefs or sins on our souls. 

As I think back to a time when I was dating my future husband, I remember asking myself “Do I LOVE love him? How do I know?” That was the wrong question to ask. Love is more than a feeling. Love is an action. It’s actions you take even when it’s hard. It’s action that supports the dignity of those around you. 

Imagine how terrible life would be if love was just a feeling. It would come and go with the whims of the wind, like feeling tired or mirthful. It’d be a smiple adjective. 

Love is so much more powerful as a verb.

Love to all,

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After Mass is a great time to dawdle.

Our church offers “Last Chance Mass” on Sunday nights in the summer time, and I’m finding that I love it. 

I love ending my weekend in the slightly chilly church, surrounded by my fellow parishoners who have just returned from a weekend away. The entire congregation is comfortably intent on hearing the message Father has for us. 

The tone seems a different from Sunday morning… more relaxed and open maybe? As if we accomplished something in the last two days and are seeking renewing grace to enter the new week with vigor.

Perhaps it’s the oppressive heat outside, or maybe the thirst of the particular group of people, but it seems as if this group wouldn’t mind if Father took an extra 20 minutes in his homily. No one is rushed to move on with their day. No one is restlessly checking their watch. 

To have absolutely nothing to do, and nowhere to be after Mass is a blessing. Instead of “getting what we came for” and moving on with our grocery shopping, brunch, lawn care, etc.


There is something special about that quiet time after Father recesses out of the sactuary.  I think the Sunday night Masses’ is just more noticeable because it’s more languid and drawn out.

But that same moment exists in the “reglar” Sunday morning Masses, too. I encourage you to take a beat after the final hymn this weekend and experience it for yourself.

Love to all,

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As a small business owner, I reach out for help quite often.

But sometimes it seems like there’s a language barrier. 

For example, if I want to explain to someone who is helping with Google ads what scapulars are for so we can get the language right, I start seeing our faith from an outside perspective.

And I get excited and nervous all at the same time about this opportunity. In my head I’m thinking “Don’t make this sound weird, explain it with love.”

“Don’t scare them off, make this sound as awesome as it is.”

Invariably, my palms get sweaty, and my explanation comes out in a jumbled mass of “Our mother promised us, you see…” and “it’s this cool thing… and I guess you have to be Catholic to ‘get it'”.  And from there it devolves into rambling.

I have yet to convert anyone to the faith other than my husband. 

As hard as I try not to be apologetic or overly enthusiastic, I never seem to get it right, and I don’t think I’m getting any better with practice.

But there must be some reason God keeps putting these people in my path. Maybe they get just a tiny bit out of our conversations? Maybe it’s to teach me humility? I’m sure He has a plan that I’m not privy too.

Regardless, we keep trying to find ways to reach customers and inspire them to explore new avenues of their faith. We want to transform lukewarm souls into curious souls, and then on to fired-up souls. 

I want to get to heaven, and drag as many of you there with me as I can.

Step 1: Do you own a scapular?

Step 2: Do you wear your scapular at all times?

Step 3: Are you enrolled in your scapular, and do the daily exercises associated with the type you have?

The most common is the Brown Scapular, and with it come a few requirements that you may not know about.

But I don’t want you to think that it would be too much work. I’d rather you have the perspective of the scapular as wearing a prayer, and the requirement for daily recitation of the Little Office or Holy Rosary (or abstaining from meat on Wednesdays and Saturdays) to be a resting place for you – an activity of restoration and welcome peace rather than “oh man… I have to do this thing again….argh.”

How can you approach your Catholic faith with a fresh sense of curiosity? 

It’s a hard question to answer because there is so much to learn, so many ways to pray, and 2,000 years of history to look to.

Instead of being overwhelmed, I challenge you to take stock of your own needs. Are you feeling disconnected during the Eucharist? Maybe a more thorough understanding can help.

Feel like prayer is an afterthought? Maybe wearing your prayers in the form of a scapular will bring you closer to God during normal daily routines.

Get curious. Let us know how we can help.

Love to all,

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I believe God loves to delight us.

And He delights IN us.

For those of you who are parents, think back to when your children would laugh with their whole body. The belly laugh of a toddler is my most favorite sound in the world.

And as parents, we delighted in our Child’s delight! So we would make funny faces or blow raspberries on their bellies to give them that delight.

God leaves moments of delight for us everywhere… it could be as dramatic as a rainbow, or as simple as the first dandilion blooming in the spring. 

Keep an eye open for little delights throughout your day, and then thank God for that little gift.

Love to all,

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As I’m leaving the confessional this Sunday, my first thought is “I wonder how long it will stick this time,” just hoping to get to Holy Communion in a state of grace.

I had just finished confessing the same sins I’ve been confessing for years. 

When am I going to GET it? When am I going to change?

We are all in a constant state of renewal. Renewing our zest for life, renewing our kitchen into a state of cleanliness, renewing our commitment to our jobs when we get up in the morning and repeat the same Tuesday that we had last week…

Opportunities for interuption are all around us. This last weekend I was listening to the book “Atomic Habits” as I drove to a family reunion. One of the things that struck me is how we identify ourselves.

It one thing to say “I’m trying to wake up ealier” and another to say “I’m an early riser.” Once we start seeing ourselves as the identity we want to become, creating new habits becomes a bit easier.

This struck a cord because a few months ago I was talking to Kathy Kovarik about my spiritual gifts discernment. (She’s amazing, btw). And at the end of our conversation she told me something I’ve heard many times over, but this time was different. She said “You are the daugher of the King.” Meaning, I had unlimited potential and the protection of God himself as I experimented with different spiritual gifts.

Actually…. it had a much deeper meaning for me than that. I’m really having a hard time putting into words how loved and protected I felt all at once. 

Which brings me to the form of Renewal I’ve been working with over the last few months: Spiritual Gifts. 

You’ve read my emails; I’ve been alluding to Spiritual Gifts for a few weeks now. If you find yourself in a place of wanting to do more, or needing a fresh way to participate in your faith, or simply wanting to have a clearer understanding of the Spiritual Gifts you were given, there are two steps.

The first is to take an inventory. St. Austin’s in Austin TX provides this link for an initial self-assesment.  Give yourself time, pray before you begin, and answer as the Holy Spirity guides you.

The second step that I found the most beneficial is to hire someone like Kathy to help you on the path to discerning how to use this information. She is a Catholic spiritual director and trained in the Sprititual Gifts process.  If this is something you are serious about, her email address is facesofleadership (at)

I hope you find some little ray of newness in your faith every day.

Love to all,

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“I am shook” is most often heard in our house when our teenagers are being sarcastic.

But what happens when our faith is shaken? I’m not talking about a lukewarm faith, but fear.

I’ve recently sought the help of a spiritual director trained in helping people discern their spiritual gifts. And while some of these gifts were easy to identify, she challenged me to use the next month to discern if Faith is one of my spiritual gifts (more on this in the coming weeks).

To say that I’ve had resistance is an understatement. I have never had such a deluge of fear rocking my boat in my life. The past week has been a stream of anxiety and tears, bordering on terror. 

So here I sit, reminding myself that fear is the opposite of faith. When the apostles were in the boat with Jesus, and He is asleep while the boat is being battered with the storm, no one is stopping to pray. Instead they are physically fighting to keep the boat afloat, doing everything in their OWN power.

But their own power isn’t good enough.

And Jesus awakens and calms the storm. Nothing man could have done to save the boat would have worked, except having faith and praying. 

I want to control everything. I want my hard work to fix everything. 

In 1 John 4:18 we are told “There is no fear in love, but perfect love drives out fear because fear has to do with punishment, and so one who fears is not yet perfect in love.”

Faith and Fear cannot coexist. So what are we to do when faced with fear and panic, and the need to fix our own problems?

1. Spend a minimum of 15 minutes in prayer with God, breathing deeply.

2. Remind myself that I am the daughter of the King. Fear does not come from God.

3. Repent (confession) – the grace received in sacraments is only available to the hearts that are prepared for those graces.

And when you are in a spiral of fear, it is the grace of God that allows us to love and trust, and build the faith necessary to squelch the fear.

Love to all,

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When Father mentioned “Heresy of Quietism” it caught me off guard.

I had never heard that phrase before.

Our priest used it in his sermon this weekend and I was intrigued. 

Basically, it’s advocates for the believer to be passive in their faith life.

On it’s surface it sounds like simple contemplation. But Quietism is a little more sinister than that. Defined as “devotional contemplation and abandonment of the will as a form of religious mysticism.”

So instead of relying on the sacraments, or going out and being an active Christian – showing others the love of God, practitioners would claim that because they gave up their free will, everything that happens is the will of God, and if they happened to sin, it wasn’t really them, it was their body but not their will, so they couldn’t be responsible for it.

The crux I’m aiming to get across is that this fear that we have of “what difference can I make?” or being to scared to be that outward face of God’s love is weak and passive. 

God isn’t asking you (me) to go convert the entire world, to cure cancer, or be the next savior (we already have One, thank you), but you certainly cannot sit on the sidelines and allow fear to keep you from uniting your will with God’s.

Be scared. Then go out and do it anyway.

Go in peace to love and serve the world!

Love to all,

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There are 2 things I want to address:

1) The gifts God gives us

2) The opportunity to use these gifts

I spent this last week in Arkansas with my FIRST Lego League robotics team that I coach. We’ve had a pretty successful group these last couple of years thanks to the kiddos’ blend of creativity and talents.


We had been working for this competition for 9 months…. 5 months before even qualifying for the event. The kids knew their stuff inside out and backwards. 


Going in to those judged events I was so nervous for them. They had God’s gifts, they developed those gifts and applied them to their robotics.


Would they be able to embrace the opportunity in front of them?

This doesn’t apply only to a whip-smart group of Junior High kids. We are given charisms (aka spiritual gifts). The more we use them, the more opportunities arise to use them even more.

Be on the lookout for the opportunity. Only a portion of us are called to use our words when we spread the Word. The rest of us are called to use our creativity, wisdom, prayer, healing (or other charism) to spread God’s love.

This is how you bring your faith into your every day life. This is how God’s presence is woven into your daily tasks.

Love to all,

PS… the robot kiddos nailed it!

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Travis here. Megan’s taking the week off as she’s headed to the First Lego League Razorback International Championships!

A while back, our priest, Father Kevin, told a story about his childhood that was really interesting to me (he tells lots of great stories of his childhood actually).

Anyway, with this story, he talked about how he was always disappointed that he wasn’t named after a saint. So much so, that he looked towards St. Michael the Archangel for his confirmation Saint; which is partly why we pray the prayer to St. Michael at the end of each mass. Of course, he found out later that he WAS named after a saint, just not one as well-known as others!

This got me to thinking about the Catholic faith and the history of it. I’m a student of history and love doing research on a variety of things. You see, I was raised Lutheran and we don’t have all of these Saints. We don’t learn their history, their struggles and how they overcame them and inspired others to follow Christ. So Father Kevin’s story really seemed to hit home because, well, I wasn’t named after a Saint.

I’ve been doing more research on it and have found some amazing Saints throughout the ages. My favorite so far is St. John Chrysostom. He is the patron saint of Orators and was known for his eloquence – which as a speech and debate coach is probably why I like him so much.

This discovery is something that I continue to find interesting. Magnificat has really helped me with this because each episode has a “Saint Who?” that I’ve learned quite a bit about different Saints who I previously had no idea who they were.

It’s pretty amazing seeing everything that they’ve done over the years and the connections they had to other saints. So if you want to be like me and learn about new saints, there are a ton of resources out there. You never know, maybe you’ll find someone who will inspire you!

Megan will be back next week. Thanks for reading!


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Sunday evening I drove my daughter into town so she could pick up trash in a park in order to get the last of her required community service hours in for school.

That same day I had passed up the opportunity to pick up a piece of trash in the parking lot at the grocery store. 

I still feel guilty about that.

This scenario has me thinking about the times that we “do good” compared to the times we decline the invitation. Fatigue, reputation, laziness, and apathy all play a role. 

The natural tendency is to want to “get credit” for our good acts, but not to the extent where we’d look weird doing it. (Or maybe that’s just a Midwest thing).  

So I’ll ask you this:

When it comes down to these little opportunities to shine our Christian light on the world – even for just a moment – how often do we say “yes”?

And – What can we do to improve our participation percentage in these moments?

Love to all,

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