I know the depth and breadth of our Catholic faith can get overwhelming.  There is always something more to learn or uncover.

Prayer, history, Saints, Catechism, traditions… when I stop and think about the mountain of information that faces those coming to our church via RCIA, I have to admire them. Even if these wonderful souls are intimidated by all of that, they press on because of the Eucharist.

The other day I was feeling sorry for myself because I had taken on too much. I was falling behind on serving my customers well and being a great mom to my children because I was being stretched in other directions. 

In the midst of all of this I found myself in Mass on Sunday morning feeling completely disconnected. Noting that I was relying on a feeling (which we’ve talked about here before), I prayed.

I didn’t even know how to start… Should I ask for something? Be grateful? I ended up just having a flow of consciousness prayer – laying it all out there. What was frustrating me, how I was disappointing myself, expectations that were left unmet.

I found comfort in knowing that God just wanted my presence at that moment. I didn’t have to go find another saint to be inspired by, I didn’t have to decipher the meaning of a paragraph in the Catechism or read the writings of St. Benedict.

I just had to be present at Mass.Thank God for the sacraments. Thank God for the grace we receive in Confession and in the Eucharist. 

He’s not adding to my burdens. Our relationship is not meant to be a mental exercise. 

We are welcome at His feast, we can lay our burdens down and find rest in Him.

Love to all,

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I like getting a good chuckle at Mass.

This Sunday we had a special Mass for our Confirmation candidates, and Father referred to confirmation as one of the “pickle sacraments.” Once you’ve received it, it can’t be undone.

So I ask you this… Have I been living under a rock? I thought that was hysterical! I’ve never heard that phrase before.

I’ve done a Google search, and nothing came up. I don’t think Google has failed me since 2004. 

Back to the topic at hand… Once you are sealed with the gift of the Holy Spirit, it cannot be undone. The pickle cannot go back to being a cucumber.

God will not leave you. He is Love.

Remember, you wear the His seal.  And thank God for that!

Love to all,

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When is the last time you changed your mind because of a sermon?

Does this sound familiar?

I have a bad habit of sitting in Mass, listening to the sermon, and thinking “I’m glad Father is bringing this up, because there are a lot of people in here who need their minds changed about this issue.”

And other times, “Man is he off about that! How dare Father make veiled declarations about politics?”

It begs the question: How open are we to have our minds and hearts changed?

Whether it’s something political, tithing, or simply the importance of saying the rosary every day, sometimes it’s too painful to hear how I’m falling short. So instead I turn the homily outward and look for ways that it’s OK to stay how I am because someone else is “doing it worse”.

It begs the question: When is the last time I opened my heart and mind to change? 

What opportunities do you have to reconcile your ideas to the teachings of the Catholic Church?

I struggle with some church teachings. I’ll be the first to admit that. So my challenge is finding out :

1. What is the Church really saying on this issue? (get clear)

2. Why do I think so strongly otherwise? Why am I resistant to change my mind on this? (what’s driving my resistance?)

3. What little nugget of truth can I grasp that will allow me to put a tiny crack in my current beliefs? (change my perspective)

The next time you find yourself thinking “This doesn’t apply to me”, challenge that voice and search that resistance for opportunities to grow your faith.

Love to all,

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It’s important to be curious

First of all… a special thank you to Thomas who replied to last week’s email about recognizing grace by pointing out paragraph 2005 of the Catechism.

(I’m not going to quote it for you here. I’d like for you to get a little curious, go look it up, and maybe even get a little distracted by reading more of the Catechism on your own.)

Reading paragraph 2005 led me to backing up a little bit and reading all of Article 1: Grace and Justification.

Granted – I did not “get it” after the first read through. Or the second. In fact, I’m still re-reading this section over and over so I can wrap my brain around grace and justification.

But the side benefit of trying to intellectually understand these spiritual concepts is a growing curiosity.

You see, I’m a “Try-Hard” (according to my 8th grader, “try-hard” is not a good thing. It’s used as in insult in the halls of middle school.) I keep searching, learning, consuming, trying, asking.

This is all the long way around of saying this: Getting curious leads to learning, and then to action.

So I hope you get curious, learn something new, gain insights you hadn’t had before, and ultimately find yourself in a deeper relationship with Jesus Christ.

Love to all,

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I don’t remember who told me the first time, but I remember understanding the lesson immediately: Feelings are not reliable. We can’t base our faith on feelings.

So when I talk about recognizing grace, it’s important to put aside any feelings I may have and examine the evidence.

Driving home the other day, I had a recognition of grace in my life. I don’t know why this was different from all the other times I’ve thanked God for the gifts He’s given me, but I had a very sudden realization of the abundance of His grace is my life.

And while, of course, there was a feeling of peace that accompanied this “ah-ha moment”, I felt compelled to examine where those feelings came from.

I’ve been putting a lot of very conscious effort into loving those who drive me nuts – the people around me all the way out to national politicians. As my 18 year-old told me the other day “you have to love them, you don’t have to like them.”

So as I dug into this sudden recognition of grace, it was the realization of how I’ve been able to extend grace to others, and how that ability has been growing steadily over the last few months; how I’ve been able to put aside initial judgement, consider other perspectives, and see the good before being tempted to dig for the bad.

I don’t tell you this because I’m patting myself on the back. Instead, I want to tell the whole world how God has answered my prayers, helped me put in the work and create change in my own life – all in a way that is only possible with His grace.

As I was telling my junior high robotics team last week – if given the chance, extend the benefit of the doubt and give grace to those around you. God will fill your cup right back up to the brim and more.

Love to all,

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Embarrassingly, I was out-gifted by my sister last year.

I know, I know. It’s not a contest.

But when the gift my sister gave Mom for Christmas last year brought tears to her eyes, I knew she had “won”.

What was that gift?

A rosary. 

Seriously. The daughter who runs the Catholic website was out-gifted by her sister, who gave Mom a rosary.

I still shake my head at myself for that one, but with a smile on my face.

Love to all,

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I think I’m doing a disservice to my kids…

Last week I was invited by a dear friend to attend a rosary get-together. I don’t know if I’d call it a “club”, it was simply a gathering of her friends to pray the rosary and eat dinner together.

I had never been to anything like this before, and it was wonderful.

Outside of a church, praying in public is not something I’m used to. 

Yes, we pray before meals, I pray in my car, but that’s about as “public” as it gets for me.

It occurred to me that I even avoid “getting caught” praying when I’m praying at home… and what a disservice this has been to my children.

Sure, we talk about prayer and Catholicism – they’ll  have 13 years of Catholic education under their belts by the time they graduate – but my natural inclination for privacy has made it harder for me to set an example of what prayer life could look like.

So the challenge I have for myself this Advent is to put myself in more scenarios where I can get “caught” praying.

Pray for me 🙂

Love to all,


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Am I wasting God’s gifts?

In this week full of Thanksgiving, I wanted to give you some food for thought in regards to how we sometimes waste our God-given gifts.

This isn’t about guilt or our shortcomings or “should-ing” on ourselves.

Instead it’s about finding the motivation to do better.

We know when we’re falling short. Just today I procrastinated on this email and didn’t use the gift of time wisely. I fettered away hours with distractions.

The strength to overcome my own bad habits and shortcomings doesn’t come from myself.

It’s the sames reason we shouldn’t be prideful when we fast. It’s not about what I can do alone for myself. It’s the opposite.

God gives us this strength. I find that so comforting  that I don’t have to rely on myself. He is with me.

Have a blessed Thanksgiving.

Love to all,

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I love old hymns (“old” meaning what I grew up with in the 80’s)

This weekend at Mass the music ministry brought out an oldie-but-a-goodie: Glory and Praise to Our God.

I haven’t heard that song in years, and it’s been traveling through my brain ever since.

We’ve all heard the phrase “like gold that’s tested in fire” a hundred times.  This time it really stuck out at me.

“In His wisdom he strengthens us, like gold that’s tested in fire.”

In that moment, I understood that the trials in my life are meant as exercises in becoming stronger and sloughing off the weaknesses and sin that keep me from a closer relationship with Him.

How often do I cling to what is meant to be burned away – hold on to my weaknesses as if they’ll protect me from ridicule and failure?

I think it takes a bit of courage to let them burn away. Courage is never easy. If it were easy it wouldn’t be courage.

Love to all,

P.S. Way back in the 80’s we had a hymnal that had an orange sunset on the cover (maybe… my memory might be failing me – I just remember it was orange).  It was volume 2 or something like it. I was about 6 years old and I would go to CCD with my mom because she taught it. 

A woman there would play songs from this book on her guitar and we’d sing along.  There was one song in particular. I can’t think of it and it’s been bugging me for a few months now. 

Does anyone know what hymnal this may have been and where I can get my hands on a copy?

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The beauty of Advent.

We had an advent wreath for years that sat as a decoration on our dining room table, but we never lit the candles. Don’t let this happen to you!

Advent wreaths are meant to be used! And here’s how:

At the dinner table after you say grace is when the advent wreath is traditionally lit.

(Remember to have your advent wreath blessed by a priest or deacon.)

Each evening following, begin by praying over your food, praying the advent prayer, and then light the appropriate number of candles. (The candles stay lit until the meal is over).

Week One: 

Leader: O Lord, stir up Thy might, we beg Thee, and come, That by Thy protection we may deserve to be rescued from the threatening dangers of our sins and saved by Thy deliverance. Through Christ our Lord.

All: Amen.

Week 2

Leader: O Lord, stir up our hearts that we may prepare for Thy only begotten Son, that through His coming we may be made worthy to serve Thee with pure minds. Through Christ our Lord.

All: Amen.

Week 3

Leader: O Lord, we beg Thee, incline Thy ear to our prayers and enlighten the darkness of our minds by the grace of Thy visitation. Through Christ our Lord.

All: Amen.

Week 4

Leader: O Lord, stir up Thy power, we pray Thee, and come; and with great might help us, that with the help of Thy Grace, Thy merciful forgiveness may hasten what our sins impede. Through Christ our Lord.

All: Amen.

So gather the family together and make the Advent Wreath part of your Christmas preparations. It will help you quiet your heart, regain peace amid all the festivities, and focus on the real meaning of the season.

Have a Blessed Day!

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