First of all, I wanted to tell you that I really appreciate that you take the time to read my posts. These Tuesday posts especially have a little part of my heart in each one.

And it’s often the Tuesday emails that I get a lot of responses from, mostly good feedback, but occasionally from someone who has a lot of hurt. 

I used to react very defensively (and sometimes I still do), but mostly I just pray for them because there seems to be an absence of grace or the presence of pain. For whatever reason – whether they read my email at a bad time, it brought up something the reader doesn’t want to acknowledge as a weakness in themself, or they somehow feel attacked – they hit the “reply” button and express their pain.

My heart goes out to these people. I pray they find the comfort they need.

These situations make me turn the mirror back on myself.

When do I act out with frustration instead of grace?

There are times when I’m itching for a fight, and it’s so easy to take someone’s words out of context and twist them into something I can be offended about. 

Then I can really let ’em have it! But that never helps. 

It’s like I’m expecting it to be a release valve to let some pressure off, but instead I just end up feeling worse – sorry that I hurt someone, mad at myself (but trying to justify it), angrier than I was before.

Thank goodness we have God. Thank God for the sacraments. Only He can perfect us. Only he can justify us. 

As humans we are imperfect. We can try to extend grace to one another, we will fail, but we should always try again.

Love to all,


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Why are you holding back?

Do you ever look around at the people in your parish and identify those who you think are REALLY holy… I mean like WAY holier than you think you are capable of?

Any maybe you watch them with a bit of admiration tinged with jealousy?

Why is it so easy for them to be so comfortable with God?

Well… who said it was easy?

And is that what’s holding you back?


Fear is not of God. 

We are told “Much will be required of the person entrusted with much.”

Our faith is a gift. We have been entrusted with it.

This is my thought pattern: Ignorance is bliss. I don’t want to know how short I’m falling of true communion with God. Because if I had that deep knowledge, He would ask something of me that would be very hard. The more of His gifts I accept, the more responsibility I will have, and it might be really hard.

Sheer terror. 

What I need to keep reminding myself over and over (and over), is this: Sure, from the perspective of where I’m at now, that might seem scary. But how God will strengthen me and prepare me for what He’s going to ask of me will make me capable.

Think of it this way: As a little kid – like 6 or 7 years old, I’d watch the varsity basketball team play – heck even a middle school team play – and watch with awe at how well they could dribble and shoot.  But by the time I got to middle school, dribbling and shooting wasn’t that hard.

What I’m saying is that no one should hold back from diving in head first into their faith and activly seeking a greater bond with God. 

Don’t let fear hold you back. Embrace the coming challenge knowing that you have the Power of Heaven at your side.

Love to all,

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What is your vision? (read to the end to find out what angle to use)

I want to light hearts and souls on fire.

And I don’t know if I can.

Certainly not without the help of the Holy Spirit. And, as it turns out, not without outreach.


As a small business owner, I’m constantly looking for ways to get better at all-things-sales.

One of the questions that comes up in one of my business-owners groups is “What is your vision?” And most people’s answer deals with monetary goals.

I find myself in this akward place of 1) reflecting on what really matters in my life, and 2) the need to make a profit to make any of it a reality. 

I tell you this because I want to give you an example of where it can be really hard to get wrapped up in the problems in this world that won’t matter in the next.

And money is one of those things that has zero value in the next.

But there is this dichotomy of being able to realize my vision of being one of God’s tools to light souls on fire, and the need to be able to sustain ourselves in order to do it.

So while in prayer the phrase “in and not of” is repeating in my mind over and over. I think God is communicating with me and I’m missing the message.

I have a vision of success, and when I dig into it there is an element of personal glory. That’s where I’m getting caught up. I can’t claim to know God’s plan for me. I might simply be a stepping stone for someone else’s glory.

But that’s not the narrative that modern society teaches us to have. Instead we are filling with phrases like “follow your bliss” and encouraged to seek our “Personal Legend”. We are told (and it’s easy to believe) that finding noteriety is how we can impact the world.


I want to tell you about a woman who from the perspective of an outside observer might appear to have been a “nobody”. She was small in stature, born and raised, lived and died in and around a town of about 200 people and poor as a church mouse. Her name is unknown to most, but she was a shining example of the Love of God and love FOR God.

She and her husband shared a love for each other that was eclipsed only by their love for God. Together they raised 9 children. Money was never abundant, but she showered her loved ones with food, time, and prayers. The family had what they needed, but never much more than that.

This woman was my grandma, and I pray every day to become just a fraction of the saint that she was. 

There was no fairy-tale ending of “it all worked out in the end” other than when she died she was surrounded by the love of her family, and I doubt more than a few pennies to her name. 


To have a Vision insinuates to have an end in mind. When you are contemplating the grand Vision for your life, what are you looking at?

Are you looking at retirement? Are you looking at the rung of the ladder you want to get to?

What about the invisible impact that you will never know about? What about your final thoughts as you draw your last breath? Forget the security of a well funded 401(k) for a minute and think about the near end when money has zero value to you.

What is your vision for that moment in your life?

Love to all,

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Make love an action.

In the Douay-Rheims Bible, 1 Corinthians 13:4-5 reads:

4 Charity is patient, is kind: charity envieth not, dealeth not perversely; is not puffed up; 5 Is not ambitious, seeketh not her own, is not provoked to anger, thinketh no evil; 

We are much more familiar with these bible verses with the word “Love” instead of “Charity”. 

When I first saw this about a decade ago, I had an instant shift in perspective of what Love is. In my mind it shifted from a feeling waiting to blossom, to a choice.

We are called to love one another. We are not called to LIKE each other (thank goodness… that could be infinitely many times harder). But when we are called to love one another, we are not being told to have feelings of affection.

Instead we are told to take action, to be patient with one another and not to try to one-up each other. 

Every one of us has dignity, regardless of political affiliation, race, beliefs or sins on our souls. 

As I think back to a time when I was dating my future husband, I remember asking myself “Do I LOVE love him? How do I know?” That was the wrong question to ask. Love is more than a feeling. Love is an action. It’s actions you take even when it’s hard. It’s action that supports the dignity of those around you. 

Imagine how terrible life would be if love was just a feeling. It would come and go with the whims of the wind, like feeling tired or mirthful. It’d be a smiple adjective. 

Love is so much more powerful as a verb.

Love to all,

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After Mass is a great time to dawdle.

Our church offers “Last Chance Mass” on Sunday nights in the summer time, and I’m finding that I love it. 

I love ending my weekend in the slightly chilly church, surrounded by my fellow parishoners who have just returned from a weekend away. The entire congregation is comfortably intent on hearing the message Father has for us. 

The tone seems a different from Sunday morning… more relaxed and open maybe? As if we accomplished something in the last two days and are seeking renewing grace to enter the new week with vigor.

Perhaps it’s the oppressive heat outside, or maybe the thirst of the particular group of people, but it seems as if this group wouldn’t mind if Father took an extra 20 minutes in his homily. No one is rushed to move on with their day. No one is restlessly checking their watch. 

To have absolutely nothing to do, and nowhere to be after Mass is a blessing. Instead of “getting what we came for” and moving on with our grocery shopping, brunch, lawn care, etc.


There is something special about that quiet time after Father recesses out of the sactuary.  I think the Sunday night Masses’ is just more noticeable because it’s more languid and drawn out.

But that same moment exists in the “reglar” Sunday morning Masses, too. I encourage you to take a beat after the final hymn this weekend and experience it for yourself.

Love to all,

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As a small business owner, I reach out for help quite often.

But sometimes it seems like there’s a language barrier. 

For example, if I want to explain to someone who is helping with Google ads what scapulars are for so we can get the language right, I start seeing our faith from an outside perspective.

And I get excited and nervous all at the same time about this opportunity. In my head I’m thinking “Don’t make this sound weird, explain it with love.”

“Don’t scare them off, make this sound as awesome as it is.”

Invariably, my palms get sweaty, and my explanation comes out in a jumbled mass of “Our mother promised us, you see…” and “it’s this cool thing… and I guess you have to be Catholic to ‘get it'”.  And from there it devolves into rambling.

I have yet to convert anyone to the faith other than my husband. 

As hard as I try not to be apologetic or overly enthusiastic, I never seem to get it right, and I don’t think I’m getting any better with practice.

But there must be some reason God keeps putting these people in my path. Maybe they get just a tiny bit out of our conversations? Maybe it’s to teach me humility? I’m sure He has a plan that I’m not privy too.

Regardless, we keep trying to find ways to reach customers and inspire them to explore new avenues of their faith. We want to transform lukewarm souls into curious souls, and then on to fired-up souls. 

I want to get to heaven, and drag as many of you there with me as I can.

Step 1: Do you own a scapular?

Step 2: Do you wear your scapular at all times?

Step 3: Are you enrolled in your scapular, and do the daily exercises associated with the type you have?

The most common is the Brown Scapular, and with it come a few requirements that you may not know about.

But I don’t want you to think that it would be too much work. I’d rather you have the perspective of the scapular as wearing a prayer, and the requirement for daily recitation of the Little Office or Holy Rosary (or abstaining from meat on Wednesdays and Saturdays) to be a resting place for you – an activity of restoration and welcome peace rather than “oh man… I have to do this thing again….argh.”

How can you approach your Catholic faith with a fresh sense of curiosity? 

It’s a hard question to answer because there is so much to learn, so many ways to pray, and 2,000 years of history to look to.

Instead of being overwhelmed, I challenge you to take stock of your own needs. Are you feeling disconnected during the Eucharist? Maybe a more thorough understanding can help.

Feel like prayer is an afterthought? Maybe wearing your prayers in the form of a scapular will bring you closer to God during normal daily routines.

Get curious. Let us know how we can help.

Love to all,

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I believe God loves to delight us.

And He delights IN us.

For those of you who are parents, think back to when your children would laugh with their whole body. The belly laugh of a toddler is my most favorite sound in the world.

And as parents, we delighted in our Child’s delight! So we would make funny faces or blow raspberries on their bellies to give them that delight.

God leaves moments of delight for us everywhere… it could be as dramatic as a rainbow, or as simple as the first dandilion blooming in the spring. 

Keep an eye open for little delights throughout your day, and then thank God for that little gift.

Love to all,

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As I’m leaving the confessional this Sunday, my first thought is “I wonder how long it will stick this time,” just hoping to get to Holy Communion in a state of grace.

I had just finished confessing the same sins I’ve been confessing for years. 

When am I going to GET it? When am I going to change?

We are all in a constant state of renewal. Renewing our zest for life, renewing our kitchen into a state of cleanliness, renewing our commitment to our jobs when we get up in the morning and repeat the same Tuesday that we had last week…

Opportunities for interuption are all around us. This last weekend I was listening to the book “Atomic Habits” as I drove to a family reunion. One of the things that struck me is how we identify ourselves.

It one thing to say “I’m trying to wake up ealier” and another to say “I’m an early riser.” Once we start seeing ourselves as the identity we want to become, creating new habits becomes a bit easier.

This struck a cord because a few months ago I was talking to Kathy Kovarik about my spiritual gifts discernment. (She’s amazing, btw). And at the end of our conversation she told me something I’ve heard many times over, but this time was different. She said “You are the daugher of the King.” Meaning, I had unlimited potential and the protection of God himself as I experimented with different spiritual gifts.

Actually…. it had a much deeper meaning for me than that. I’m really having a hard time putting into words how loved and protected I felt all at once. 

Which brings me to the form of Renewal I’ve been working with over the last few months: Spiritual Gifts. 

You’ve read my emails; I’ve been alluding to Spiritual Gifts for a few weeks now. If you find yourself in a place of wanting to do more, or needing a fresh way to participate in your faith, or simply wanting to have a clearer understanding of the Spiritual Gifts you were given, there are two steps.

The first is to take an inventory. St. Austin’s in Austin TX provides this link for an initial self-assesment.  Give yourself time, pray before you begin, and answer as the Holy Spirity guides you.

The second step that I found the most beneficial is to hire someone like Kathy to help you on the path to discerning how to use this information. She is a Catholic spiritual director and trained in the Sprititual Gifts process.  If this is something you are serious about, her email address is facesofleadership (at) gmail.com.

I hope you find some little ray of newness in your faith every day.

Love to all,

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“I am shook” is most often heard in our house when our teenagers are being sarcastic.

But what happens when our faith is shaken? I’m not talking about a lukewarm faith, but fear.

I’ve recently sought the help of a spiritual director trained in helping people discern their spiritual gifts. And while some of these gifts were easy to identify, she challenged me to use the next month to discern if Faith is one of my spiritual gifts (more on this in the coming weeks).

To say that I’ve had resistance is an understatement. I have never had such a deluge of fear rocking my boat in my life. The past week has been a stream of anxiety and tears, bordering on terror. 

So here I sit, reminding myself that fear is the opposite of faith. When the apostles were in the boat with Jesus, and He is asleep while the boat is being battered with the storm, no one is stopping to pray. Instead they are physically fighting to keep the boat afloat, doing everything in their OWN power.

But their own power isn’t good enough.

And Jesus awakens and calms the storm. Nothing man could have done to save the boat would have worked, except having faith and praying. 

I want to control everything. I want my hard work to fix everything. 

In 1 John 4:18 we are told “There is no fear in love, but perfect love drives out fear because fear has to do with punishment, and so one who fears is not yet perfect in love.”

Faith and Fear cannot coexist. So what are we to do when faced with fear and panic, and the need to fix our own problems?

1. Spend a minimum of 15 minutes in prayer with God, breathing deeply.

2. Remind myself that I am the daughter of the King. Fear does not come from God.

3. Repent (confession) – the grace received in sacraments is only available to the hearts that are prepared for those graces.

And when you are in a spiral of fear, it is the grace of God that allows us to love and trust, and build the faith necessary to squelch the fear.

Love to all,

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When Father mentioned “Heresy of Quietism” it caught me off guard.

I had never heard that phrase before.

Our priest used it in his sermon this weekend and I was intrigued. 

Basically, it’s advocates for the believer to be passive in their faith life.

On it’s surface it sounds like simple contemplation. But Quietism is a little more sinister than that. Defined as “devotional contemplation and abandonment of the will as a form of religious mysticism.”

So instead of relying on the sacraments, or going out and being an active Christian – showing others the love of God, practitioners would claim that because they gave up their free will, everything that happens is the will of God, and if they happened to sin, it wasn’t really them, it was their body but not their will, so they couldn’t be responsible for it.

The crux I’m aiming to get across is that this fear that we have of “what difference can I make?” or being to scared to be that outward face of God’s love is weak and passive. 

God isn’t asking you (me) to go convert the entire world, to cure cancer, or be the next savior (we already have One, thank you), but you certainly cannot sit on the sidelines and allow fear to keep you from uniting your will with God’s.

Be scared. Then go out and do it anyway.

Go in peace to love and serve the world!

Love to all,

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